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Just watched a couple more episodes and now I understand why they dropped the "for the straight guy" from the title. That might be my favorite episode so far.

Also, I find it fascinating that there is this over-arching theme (at least so far) when it comes to men and self-care and understanding how much their outward appearance effects their feelings towards themselves. I think men in society are taught that they don't have to look good, that their clothes/hair/etc. don't really matter. But the show proves that just a simple shave and a hair cut and some good fitting pants can change EVERYTHING.

I know that this is how I felt after I discovered Torrid and the way their clothes fit. I was never good at finding things in my size that were fashionable so I just always shopped at Kohls, which was fine but I love how young and sexy the Torrid outfits make me feel. I get so many compliments and it just makes me feel good and DAMN I like looking good too!

We focus so much on gender roles and expectations for women, but there are just as many issues for men in our society, they just seem to swing the other way.

Deep thoughts for a Friday night, yeah?

Crossposts: https://orangerful.livejournal.com/1250961.html

Love the discussion we are all having in the comments on the other posts (so much so that it apparently triggered the LJ bots because I got two spam posts!).

Anyway, I've been having thinky thoughts and Tim has been sending me articles because he loves browsing the Google Newstand. I wanted to share three of them with you all.

Am I A Bad Feminist? - Margaret Atwood

The Humiliation of Aziz Ansari - Caitlan Flanagan, The Atlantic

Aziz Ansari is Guilty. Of not being a mind reader - Bari Weiss, New York Times

A Q&A for the post-Weinstein era <--- from back in November, but a piece I keep going back to

I read all three of them from start to finish and most of them echo thoughts that I have had over the past few days. I point out that I *read* them because I found the first link through a post about how people were mad at Atwood for her comments and one of the Tweets they quoted for the article actually said "I didn't read what she said" and then proceeded to say she was wrong...even though what they were saying had nothing to do with what she was saying. **sigh**

Oh and then this happened:

Crybabies edit The Last Jedi down to a 46 minute chauvinist cut

This doesn't have anything to do with the above, just posting so you can *facepalm* at people who are truly guilty and stupid of being everything wrong with everything.

(Entry title is a Doctor Who quote...he says this but then about 60 seconds later, punches a guy in the face for being a racist ass so...yeah)

Current Mood: contemplative
Crossposts: https://orangerful.livejournal.com/1246832.html

I just skimmed this opinion piece in the New York Times but I already like where it is going

Kids, Would You Please Start Fighting

Did you all have to take a speech and debate class in school?

I haven't heard Tim's daughter mention it, though I think I took it Junior year so that would be next year for her and might not be on her radar yet. But I think nowadays we associate debate with fighting and that is not true. People can have debates and arguments and still be friends because you don't have to make it personal. That was the whole point of the class was to learn how to do research and use facts to support your point of view in a professional manner.

And the thing about parents arguing vs fighting vs hiding it when the kids are around is another great point. I've always had issues with how to handle my disagreements with Tim when his daughter is in the room because I know on one hand that when I was a kid seeing my parents argue always upset me and I know his daughter is sensitive but on the other hand, it is good for her to see that we don't always agree on everything 100% and that we can still love each other if our views don't line up completely.

What about you? Especially those of you with kiddos? Thoughts?

Crossposts: https://orangerful.livejournal.com/1239412.html

So, I'm about halfway through Hillybilly Elegy by J.D. Vance which is all about issues in rural America and the culture that exists there. It became a bestseller after Trump was elected president because it was implied that these were the people that voted for him so everyone is reading the book in the hopes of making sense of it all.

I saw this article in the Washington Post about rural Americans and disabilities and unemployment and it echoed a lot of the issues that Vance talks about in his book. And it all just blows my mind and I struggle to find any way we can all understand each other. This culture, the entire way the families function, it just is so alien to how I grew up, how I was raised, the values instilled in me.

And, the irony being that you could read about some of these situations they go through - the broken homes, the scraping by etc. and if you saw it out of context, you might think it has to do with inner city living and "minority" groups. And this is probably what makes the divide worse because most of us fight for equality for different groups, trying to figure out how to fix a broken system, but these rural poor white groups end up getting ignored because, technically, they are part of the majority?

I dunno, it is all so hard to even grasp because that world is just so alien to me having grown up in middle class suburbs. And I'm sure that is a huge part of America's problem right now because there is no way to have a dialogue that makes any sense because the culture of both sides is so different.

I had to return the book without finishing it, I'm back on the waitlist (only 100 people ahead of me blurgh!) but I wonder what each person is getting out of this story. Living in Maryland probably gives a unique perspective too since it has a large transient population due to military and government contractor jobs, but at the same time there are people who have always been here. And Virginia and Pennsylvania aren't that far, so I'm sure people who grew up in that society have migrated across the states to start anew like Vance did.

Has anyone read the book? Thoughts? feelings? reactions? Obviously his life story isn't the ONLY story of someone growing up there, but the news coverage of the unemployment issues and opiod crisis are making it seem like perhaps his story is more average than we would ever want to believe.

Current Mood: confused
Crossposts: http://orangerful.livejournal.com/1229311.html

This NPR article is terrifying on so many levels

We Tracked Down a Fake News Creator in the Suburbs. Here's What We Learned.

The whole "fake news" debate has really pulled me in. At first, I was concerned that people were just calling anything partisan "fake news" but then I read this and these people are writing out of malice. This guy is a liberal, a registered Democrat, and he think it is "fun" to feed people misinformation and propaganda.

Oh, and he may or may not be making at least $30,000 a MONTH on it.

Reading this, I realized it is not the fake news sites that we need to be targeting. We need to target their source of revenue. We need to find out what companies advertise on fake news sites and boycott them. Shame them away from supporting these sites that are just lies.

When it comes down to it though, it is all in the hands of the consumer. We tell people to lock their house before leaving to discourage theft. We tell people to install anti-virus programs on their computer. We research our electronics purchases and check all the reviews before buying a TV. It is our responsibility to check our news sources before we share them or take them as truth.

But how can we do that when the fake news creators are actively trying to make this difficult? Buying URLs that sound like small town newspapers because they want to fool readers? Or, as the creator points out, when people "want" to read the lies, they want to believe the lies, so why would they bother to check? The fake news article about people using food stamps to buy pot in Colorado - people want to believe the worst about the poor so do they bother to find out if this is true?

But I don't think Facebook should try to block sites only because I know people will start trying to block legitimate sites they don't agree with. Like when Facebook went to the real name only policy and all of the transgender people and drag queens were virtually attacked for not using their "given" names. Plenty of news sites twist the facts, mold them to fit their agenda - is that real news or fake news?

Deep thoughts for a Sunday morning, I know. But this whole thing has been bothering me. I don't think it swayed the election, I think most people had made their decisions long before polling day. But it might sway the next one.

Thoughts? More articles? Tell me!

I finally got to watch my blu-ray of Force Awakens yesterday YAY!!!!!!!!! The first of many many viewings, I am sure. I feel like this one will definitely be a good "background" movie for when I'm working on stuff. I've seen it 5 times now and I think most of it is committed to memory LOL.

Anyway, I had a thought last night while watching a certain scene:

( SPOILERS for TFA if you haven't seen it !! )

In short, ADAM DRIVER'S FAAAAAAAAAAAACE. LOL. He really is a good actor, I really have liked him in everything I have seen him in.

I've been a fan of Monty Python since I was a kid. We used to watch the show as a family on Saturday nights on public television. I watched Holy Grail over and over and made my friends watch it too (how my parents didn't get into trouble, I don't know).

Last year, the surviving Pythons did a live show, broadcast to theaters around the world. I didn't go but I noticed a few weeks ago that the library had the DVD so I put a hold on it. I thought it would be fun to watch and laugh at the classic Python bits.

But instead of laughing, I found myself feeling very uncomfortable.

I began to realize that I have an area of Python that I really love - usually bits that are on the more intellectual or weird side. The philosopher's soccer game. The penguin on the television set. Spanish Inquisition. BICYCLE REPAIRMAN! In other words, the earliest years of Monty Python. I think I only watched the first 3 seasons then would trail off.

But the live show was full of jokes from all the Python bits, bits that haven't aged as well. Most of them made fun of gay or transgender people. Or, at least, the crux of the joke was being gay.

Also, as far as musical numbers go, the Lumberjack Song is the only Python song I've ever really liked, with Always Look on the Bright Side of Life on my radar but not a favorite. Of course, Lumberjack is also problematic for the same reason - the joke is that he is a transvestite.

When I was 12, this was comedy gold. I thought it was hilarious. At 34, I found myself unable to laugh at it anymore. There was something unfunny about these old men performing these bits. I think I could probably watch the original sketches on DVD and find them amusing, but seeing it done today, knowing it was 2014 and they were still doing these jokes...I couldn't finish the show. I turned it off, I didn't want my memories of these bits sullied.

Have I lost my sense of humor? Was it ever funny? I guess I can just paraphrase the Pope when he was talking to Michaelangelo - I may not know comedy, but I know what I like.

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